Monthly Archives: January 2011

What it looks like from the inside

Has it come to this, what someone looks like? Of course it’s multilayered, convoluted, stewing in years and pounds of matter, like compost. But yesterday I had a breakdown and a breakthrough. I told Lina, and myself, out loud, that … Continue reading

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Staying airborne

We love our therapist. We saw her last night. Gender is one of her specialties. She gets it. Everything about it. Lina and I are getting impatient with one another. She doesn’t understand why I’m not all adjusted and happy. I … Continue reading

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Facing the facts

I’m very hung up on Lina’s face. Sometimes she looks female, sometimes male, and sometimes she looks like someone I don’t know, and it freaks me out. And when I talk to her about it, it feels all wrong, but … Continue reading

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Lina's first houseguests

My friends from Florida stayed one night. They’d come to our wedding in 2004 and had seen Wessel a few other times. I saw them alone a week ago and we talked about Lina a bit. But we didn’t talk … Continue reading

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