Monthly Archives: August 2011

How does Lina feel about all this?

Friends and strangers, but especially friends who know Lina, often ask “how does Lina feel about all this publicity?” My pat answer is: She’d prefer that I wasn’t a writer, and I’d prefer that she wasn’t transgender. That sounds a … Continue reading

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Modern Love, the backstory

Assuming you got here via my Modern Love column in the New York Times (as opposed to this story in the Boston Globe), some readers and several writers have asked me questions about getting into Modern Love. It ain’t easy. … Continue reading

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Trans-convergence: Modern Love, modern heartbreak

Coincidentally, on the day my transgender-themed Modern Love column was published in the New York Times’ Style section, the Times’ New York/Region section ran a heartbreaking story by writer Laura Rena Murray about transwomen getting back-alley silicon injections by so-called “pumpers” to … Continue reading

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NY Times ‘Modern Love’ piece is online

Whoa, my New York Times essay was just published online, more than 24 hours before they told me it would be. I mean we just finished the final copy edit on the thing. The emails are already rolling in, and … Continue reading

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And now, from the Daily Mail online…

As a journalist, it’s fascinating to see how my story and then subsequent interviews are being interpreted.  Reporter Jennifer Madison from the New York office of the US Mail Online, the online site for the Daily Mail (of London) did … Continue reading

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Reporter Susan James at did a nice job with our story. At least for now, our photo is on the home page, the ole before-and-after shots. My lovely wedding dress has never had such an audience. It deserves it! … Continue reading

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Writing, riding, writing, and more writing

I spent much of the weekend (not counting our 62-mile bike ride yesterday) writing. Actually,  something to mention about the ride, a large group ride sponsored by the awesome Carolina Tarwheels. Twice I pulled off the road onto the shoulder briefly … Continue reading

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Do you feel awkward about gender-variant folks? It’s OK!

I wanted to share part of an email I got from a friend today. Well, she’s really an acquaintance, whom I’m fond of but we hadn’t seen her since “coming out” until last weekend, at her party, and then again last night, … Continue reading

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300 emails and counting, and TV flirts with us

I’ve received more than 300 emails after the Boston Globe story started to circulate. First they came from Boston area, then the US and of course later on, around the *other* Globe, you know, the real one, including a nice … Continue reading

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Gratitude, tears, and photos

What a day. I went to yoga this evening (Durham YMCA) to relax, but instead my head is swimming and now it’s time for a rest. I’ve received about 200 emails commenting on the Globe story, and only 2 of them were … Continue reading

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