Category Archives: Coping

A great new book for the “wife of” and those transitioning

Despite the forces gathering against us in the White House and beyond, people still live their lives and struggle to be themselves. For those who are transitioning, and their loved ones, it’s a little scarier out there now. But usually … Continue reading

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Many views of transition from partners’ perspectives

I’m so happy to have another resource for “partners of,” the new book “Love, Always: Partners of Trans People on Intimacy, Challenge & Resilience,” edited by Jordon Johnson and Becky Garrison, published by Transgress Press. (My Boston Globe piece was … Continue reading

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‘Trans Bodies, Trans Selves,’ a must-own

Over the past few weeks I’ve been thumbing through the behemoth compilation “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community,” planning to write about the recently published book soon. I did see an Associated Press story about it … Continue reading

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New book gives wives insight

I recently received a copy of “My Husband’s a Woman Now” from Leslie Hilburn Fabian, a fellow (sister?) “wife of,” asking that I consider it for my list of transgender resources. It’s been added! There are so few books out … Continue reading

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A new name for a new year

I call my sweetie Lina, but her chosen name is Selina. That’s her legal name and also what her family and friends in the Netherlands call her by. Meanwhile, friends and co-workers in the U.S. use Lina, thanks to my … Continue reading

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Our story inspires a song

When I received an email out of the blue from some dude named  David Lockwood saying he was a “singer/songwriter” making an album called “Modern Love,” partly inspired by essays in the column of the same name in the New … Continue reading

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Coming out and staying in

I had an interesting conversation on a flight out of Orlando last week. My seat mate was heading home to Midland, Texas, after two Disney-filled weeks with wife and young kids, one at Disney World in Orlando and the other … Continue reading

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