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Empathetic electrologist highlights ‘Transgender Profiles’
There’s a classic TV commercial for hair-dyeing (as they used to call it back then) with the tagline “Does she or doesn’t she: only her hair dresser knows for sure.” In the male-to-female trans world, the tagline could be: “only … Continue reading
‘She Said’ a universal, personal wive’s tale
The thing that most surprises me and never surprises me at all is how other “wife of” stories are not at all like my story and totally like my story. Yep, the personal is universal, and indeed Anne M. Reid … Continue reading
Posted in Books, Coping, Family, Marriage, Out and about, Public reaction, Transgender
Tagged transgender books, transgender wives
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Turn up the volume — the ‘Modern Love’ podcast is here!
So, OK, the podcast reading of my Modern Love essay is out! You can hear it in two places. If you go here you get the transcript and photos. If you go to the original essay, there’s a button halfway … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Family, Friends, Marriage, Media, Out and about, Physical appearance, Public reaction, Romance, Surgery, Transgender, Writing
Tagged Ann Dowd, Handmaid's Tale, Modern Love, Modern Love podcast, podcasts, trans marriage, WBUR
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A transgender marriage? What’s the big deal?
On one hand: What’s the big deal? We’re just a normal married couple leading a typical life. On the other: Yes, it’s a BIG DEAL! We went through a gender transition and it was traumatic and I want to keep … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Family, Friends, Marriage, Out and about, Uncategorized
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A great new book for the “wife of” and those transitioning
Despite the forces gathering against us in the White House and beyond, people still live their lives and struggle to be themselves. For those who are transitioning, and their loved ones, it’s a little scarier out there now. But usually … Continue reading
Posted in Books, Coping, Family, Marriage
Tagged Housewife, Kristin Collier, transitioning with children
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Many views of transition from partners’ perspectives
I’m so happy to have another resource for “partners of,” the new book “Love, Always: Partners of Trans People on Intimacy, Challenge & Resilience,” edited by Jordon Johnson and Becky Garrison, published by Transgress Press. (My Boston Globe piece was … Continue reading
‘Trans Bodies, Trans Selves,’ a must-own
Over the past few weeks I’ve been thumbing through the behemoth compilation “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community,” planning to write about the recently published book soon. I did see an Associated Press story about it … Continue reading
Posted in Books, Coping, Family, Fashion, Friends, Legal issues, Marriage, Media, Out and about, Physical appearance, Politics, Public reaction, Romance, Surgery, Therapy, Transgender, Work, Writing
Tagged transgender resource
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New book gives wives insight
I recently received a copy of “My Husband’s a Woman Now” from Leslie Hilburn Fabian, a fellow (sister?) “wife of,” asking that I consider it for my list of transgender resources. It’s been added! There are so few books out … Continue reading
Posted in Books, Coping, Family, Marriage
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A new name for a new year
I call my sweetie Lina, but her chosen name is Selina. That’s her legal name and also what her family and friends in the Netherlands call her by. Meanwhile, friends and co-workers in the U.S. use Lina, thanks to my … Continue reading
Our story inspires a song
When I received an email out of the blue from some dude named David Lockwood saying he was a “singer/songwriter” making an album called “Modern Love,” partly inspired by essays in the column of the same name in the New … Continue reading
Posted in Coping, Media, Out and about, Writing
Tagged David Lockhart, Kickstarter, Modern Love, New York Times
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She Was the Man of My Dreams 