Category Archives: Out and about

Get your U.S. Trans Survey in today!

I’m proud of Selina today because she took an hour-plus of her time (one hour, 20 minutes!) to complete the U.S. Trans Survey, the largest survey ever devoted to the lives and experiences of trans people. If you are or … Continue reading

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Many views of transition from partners’ perspectives

I’m so happy to have another resource for “partners of,” the new book “Love, Always: Partners of Trans People on Intimacy, Challenge & Resilience,” edited by Jordon Johnson and Becky Garrison, published by Transgress Press. (My Boston Globe piece was … Continue reading

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Thank you, Bruce Jenner, Diane Sawyer and ABC

So far I haven’t been able to access the Bruce Jenner interview here in the Netherlands, but of course I’ve read much about it. There’s a nice little recap on ABC and a really great overview by Gabriel Arana at the … Continue reading

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Bruce Jenner and the rest of us

So, Bruce Jenner. I had not been aware of the speculations about a possible gender transition until a few weeks ago. I don’t keep up with the Kardashians or with Bruce. When the news became more imminent, I read a … Continue reading

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Four years later, and a new country

I was asked to contribute to a  collection of essays by and about partners of transgender and other non-conforming people. More on the book when it’s published next year. We decided to use a reprint of my Boston Globe article … Continue reading

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‘Trans Bodies, Trans Selves,’ a must-own

Over the past few weeks I’ve been thumbing through the behemoth compilation “Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community,” planning to write about the recently published book soon. I did see an Associated Press story about it … Continue reading

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Seven answers about transgender issues

The Washington Post’s “She the People” blog ran a piece today titled “Seven Questions About Transgender Issues You Were Afraid to Ask.” that deserves mention. The biggest takeaway for me was this: “Sometimes it helps to think of gender as … Continue reading

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‘Modern Love’ book spreads the word

I was thrilled to learn a few months ago that my New York Times “Modern Love” column would be referred to in “Love Illuminated: Exploring Life’s Most Mystifying Subject (with the Help of 50,000 Strangers),” by Daniel Jones, editor of … Continue reading

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A new name for a new year

I call my sweetie Lina, but her chosen name is Selina. That’s her legal name and also what her family and friends in the Netherlands call her by. Meanwhile, friends and co-workers in the U.S. use Lina, thanks to my … Continue reading

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Our story inspires a song

When I received an email out of the blue from some dude named  David Lockwood saying he was a “singer/songwriter” making an album called “Modern Love,” partly inspired by essays in the column of the same name in the New … Continue reading

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